I love it when I read an article and agree right away:
“I swear, girls these days. Always getting wasted and sleeping around, no self-respect. Whatever happened to classy women?”
“Are there no girls left out there who know how to have some class?”
“Why do girls think nobody is going to know about them sleeping around, when they sleep around with the shittiest guys that tell everyone. Just because you’re in college, doesn’t mean you have to be a complete slut.”
I’m pretty sure my mom or female relatives would say this long before a man would, so it sure as hell isn’t sexist.
It seems like everyday I see a statement like this posted somewhere: a status on Facebook, a comment on a picture online, or, in the case of the last one, on the SJSU Confessions page.
People are constantly talking down to girls who have a lot of sex and like to get drunk with their friends. The more I read this constant judgment from one total stranger to another, the more frustrated I feel.
When are people going to realize that just because a girl likes to have sex with multiple guys and get wasted on weekends doesn’t mean she has no class or self-respect?
Emphasis mine, to show how ridiculous it sounds.
Sure, they liked to get wasted or high or both at the same time, and maybe they liked to have casual sex with guys who also liked to sleep around.
As long as they were protecting themselves and knew they were comfortable enough with themselves to have sex so often, I was fine with it.
I have friends who do all of these things and more, and it kills me that so many people blatantly label girls like them as sluts with no class and no principles.
I know exactly zero women who fit that description yet could be considered mentally stable or healthy.
She could be the most honest, kind, intelligent, hilarious, selfless person in the world, and someone is going to think little of her just because she likes to get some action with single guys?
She’s Mother Teresa, ok! She gives back to the poor…
…homeless guy on the corner with her vag.
What I find particularly interesting about this is the fact that it is always girls who are being trash talked for sleeping around.
When’s the last time a guy gave a guy a hard time for having one night stands every weekend?
He wouldn’t, because he’d be too busy handing him the stud trophy.
A girl who experiments, however, is automatically labeled a slut with no self-respect and no class.
Let’s be honest, if you’re a dude out there doing a lot of fucking, chances are some of the girls are sub-hideous.
Nobody respects a guy who sleeps with anything and everything. Guys certainly don’t…who would want to associate with that? His friends would call him a fucking retard.
So let’s end that guy=stud, girl=slut meme here and now.
Again, the key is for girls to make sure they are respecting their bodies by always using protection, not tolerating sexual abuse and making sure everyone involved is single.
It takes a lot of guts for a girl in our society to confidently sleep around and have meaningless sex.
Oh please. These aren’t women getting thrown in jail for the right to vote. These aren’t Rosa Parks riding in the front of the fucking bus. The only bus these bitches ride in is the BangBus.
Knowing that people are going to talk trash about you behind your back and look at you with judgment every time they pass you by without letting it tarnish your self-esteem or self-image requires a serious level of confidence and self-respect.
A girl who can pull off that kind of self-assuredness is my definition of a girl with class.
There’s a notable difference between “self-assuredness” and “arrogant tone-deafness”. One is sexy and smart. One is unbecoming and alienating. Advocating for the second doesn’t ameliorate the circumstances.
Audrey Hepburn was not known for going out and getting trashed and fucked every weekend. Girls expect guys to be Rhett Butler and Stanley Kowalski. They can’t throw a hissy fit when guys in turn expect Vivien Leigh and get Vivian Ward.
